I’ve seen so many new babies and pregnancy announcements all over my newsfeed.
It had me thinking what I would have wanted to know before both of my pregnancies. But, didn’t really find out until after I had both of my kiddos.
So here’s my little pieces of advice to all of you.
Take time for you.
This is so important. When you become a mom, everything revolves around your child. It’s easy to put yourself on the back burner.
If you have the option to take time for just you, take it. Not just an extra few minutes in the shower or running errands alone. Do something to treat yourself. Put a face mask on and read a book. Go get your nails or hair done. Walk outside and listen to your favorite podcast.
Whatever you do, just do something that refreshes you.
As a single mom, I KNOW this is hard. Maybe I’ll make a post that gives you tips on how to make time for self care and self love. You just deserve that time!
Take a bunch of pictures.
This one seems pretty simple enough, but it’s a great reminder.
Babies and kids change so much in such a short time. Take pictures and capture them in those moments forever. You can get a Google account and upload pictures there. Or get a huge external hard drive so you can always look back and remember them while they were so itty bitty.
One things I was diligent about doing with Mila the first two years was making Shutterfly books. You can read all about it here.
You’ll never regret taking a ton of pictures, trust me.
Nothing goes as planned.
I wish I had known about this long ago.
No matter what type of pregnancy you have, birth plan you want to follow, or way you want to parent your child, they have their own agendas. I never thought I still would be breastfeeding almost three years out or have Mile in bed with me. Yet, here we are.
If you have your heart set out on something and it doesn’t work, that’s okay! Other things will work out, I promise you that. Your child will lead you to what works best with them.
It might not go as planned, but it will work out.
There will be messes.
Oh, yes. There will be hundreds of messes you didn’t even know that were possible to have.
When I think back to the first few months with Mila, flashbacks of messes just pop in my mind. In the early days, it was a lot of bodily functions. I know, so gross right. At one point, you sort of just roll with those punches and get over it.
Heads up though, they stay messy… or maybe it’s just my kid.
There’s always something being destroyed. Maybe it’s flour or powdered sugar all over your floor. Somedays it’s still poop. Others it’s all the toys in your house all over the floor, or in our case the bathtub.
This time goes entirely too fast.
Don’t blink, they’ll be walking and talking before you know it!
This piece of advice is the most complicated one on the list. It’s so sad that they grow up so quick. One day you have your infant in your arms and the next they’re crawling all over your house. You can’t believe how much they’ve grown!
It’s also helpful to know when you’re going through the hell weeks. Yeah, parenting isn’t always sunshine and happiness. There’s times where it’s so hard and you just want to make it through the next moment. We’ve all been there. This time will pass. You won’t miss every moment, so don’t feel bad.
For me, I’m always happy when I get to the next stage. I miss parts in the previous ones, but it shows that your child is learning and growing. Believe me, them getting older and growing is the greatest gift you can ever imagine.
Always remember, you’re doing your best.
The last piece of advice I have to offer is something I still remind myself of.
You. Are. Doing. Your. Best.
No matter what you have to do to parent your child, you’re getting it done. It doesn’t matter if it’s different from your family’s way of doing things or anyone on the internet. Whatever works for you is what’s best.
I know this parenting thing is really hard, at every stage. Your child choose you for a reason. The choices you make for your family are all done out of love. That’s the best you can do.
Hopefully this list has calmed your heart. Being a parent is a wild ride.
Jensen and Mila have taught me so much about myself and life. I can’t imagine not being their mom.
If you have other advice for new moms and dads, leave it in the comments below.