Insights is a fairly hard prompt to write about considering this whole blog is pretty much the insight on my life after loss. So, I’m not going to write a big post, but instead a list of the important things I’ve learned through this journey. Maybe they can help you or you can comment some of your own to help others out too.

• You never know what’s going on in a person’s life and they might not always be what they seem.

• A person just doesn’t get over the death of a loved one.
• There’s no timeline on grief.
• Every person grieves differently and that’s perfectly okay.
• Talking helps. No matter if it feels impossible to do.
• A subsequent child does not erase the pain of having a child die.
• Pregnancy/parenting after loss is the second hardest thing I’ve been through.
• Grief is isolating.
• People will be in and out of your life, hold on to the ones who listen and validate your emotions.
• It’s okay to not be okay.
• Do what’s best for you.
• Smiling after a loved one dies shouldn’t make you feel guilty (even though those first few months it makes you feel just that).
• Say the person who’s died name. It will mean the world to the person who is grieving.
• Ask for help. Even if it’s as small as someone listening to you or as big as you need. We all need help sometimes.
• Grief becomes manageable, but in an instant, it can drown you.
• Love never dies.
• Throughout life you will change and grow. Some events, such as death, will evolve you into another person. Don’t be afraid of that growth.
• If someone opens up to you, just listen.
• Sometimes our journeys are not what we expected them to be. Your journey is still as beautiful.