I dreamt Jensen and being his mother for months. Every night I would dream of our long future together. I was so ready to learn everything I could about him and being the perfect mom for my son. All I wanted was to embrace my motherhood and look at Jensen with joy every second I could.
Even though my sweet baby boy isn’t with my physically, I feel him with me everyday. I had to change my motherhood due to our tragedy. This past week seven days, I’ve made similarities and differences between what I dreamt and now; the before and after. I don’t claim to know everything, especially about being a mom. Although I’d like to give advice or reminders about being a mom to others.
Which leads us to Day Seven’s prompt…
For Mothers with living children or are pregnant:
- Don’t wish time away.
- Always tell your child/ren you love them.
- Live and cherish every moment like it could be the last.
- When your child/ren does something that upset you, remember how lucky you are that you have them and that they’re safe.
- Hug them an extra second longer.
- Be a proud of the babies you have. They are perfect in every single way.
- Be proud of yourself. You are a beautiful mother.
For Bereaved Mothers:
- Your child/ren loves you more than words can describe.
- You are not at fault.
- Honor and remember your babies as much as you can.
- It’s okay to have a good day. You deserve it.
- Reach out for support, there’s others that want to support you.
- Be proud of the babies you have. They are perfect in every single way.
- Be proud of yourself. You are a beautiful mother.
To all types of moms, remember to wish each other a Happy Mother’s Day. All mothers need to be recognized, three small words could change one’s day around.
I wish every mother a Happy Mother’s Day. If you’re lucky enough to enjoy your day with your baby, soak up every single second. If your angel is in heaven, protect your heart. Do what you feel is okay for the day. Your baby is with you. They want you to know how much you’re loved.
For me, I’ll be spending time with my loved ones; thinking and talking all about my Jensen Grey.
What words of kindness would you provide?
Grey Skies & Rainbow Highs 
This is really heavy stuff. Fortunately we haven’t had to navigate this with our two year old, but it’s only a matter of time before we lose someone that he loves.
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Life is so, so heavy. Jensen was my first loss and it was devastating. I think it’s important to share this part of our story and inform others too.
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This is something I know many people avoid discussing but so many families have dealt with. I do think comfort can be found in the present while still honoring who is missing. I pray you find comfort during Mother’s Day with your family.
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It really is a discussion that’s completely avoided, which has always been strange for me. After Jensen died, I couldn’t imagine not talking about him again. He’s always with us and present in our lives, just in different ways 💙
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I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is with you momma.
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Thank you so much.
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This is so important. Mother’s who are grieving probably feel so isolated. They need to know they’re not alone.
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There’s a loving community that are there for them, always.
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Moms are brave and you are an example for that. Wish you many brighter days in your life and lots of love for your kids.
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Thank you so much. There’s so much love for both of my kiddos.
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I always show and tell to my children that I loved them and I am always grateful to be their mother.
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Yes! Always grateful for them.
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